Interview with sunny RENITA ARCHEY

Every interaction I’ve had with Renita Archey has left me smiling.  She is delightful, and I was thrilled when she agreed to an interview.  True to her transparent nature, she shares about herself in a warm and real way.  Grab a refreshing drink and enjoy this chat with a fun-loving Christian woman.

Renita, please tell us a little about yourself.

Renita:  I am a lifelong Tennessean and an only, and slightly spoiled, only child. I was blessed to be raised in a Christian home with both sides of my family being faithful members of the Lord’s church. In fact, when I returned to my home congregation to speak at a ladies day they asked everyone who was related to me to stand. My Mom, six aunts and two or three cousins were in the audience.

I graduated from Freed Hardeman and returned to East Tennessee (you can only return to Tennessee from Tennessee if you live here and understand that East, Middle and West Tennessee are each considered their own state) to work in local radio. But then, at a Wednesday night bible study I met a young, handsome man by the name of Jeff Archey. One year later we married. We have enjoyed 27 wonderful years this April.

I work in the CEO office of the Volkswagen Chattanooga Manufacturing plant. I can literally say I have been here since dirt because I was hired before the plant was build and watched the facility come to life during my first three years of employment.

Congratulations on your upcoming anniversary!  As a speaker, your lessons are always Word-filled and practical. What are some lessons you think we need more of today?

Renita:  No matter how old we are, a good reminder of the basics is never out of date. We can draw something new from those words we have studied many times, and I think we are strengthened every time. That is especially true as our nation appears to be making so many of the same mistakes the Israelites made as a nation. Drawing those parallels are very important reminders. It is also necessary to keep reminding ourselves of the basics because, unfortunately, as we look around our congregations, it is sometimes very evident that they are not being put into practice in our everyday lives. We see immodest apparel at worship services or our members posting in social media about ungodly activities in which they are participating.

From the very first time I met you, I’ve been drawn to your sweet spirit. To what can attribute your peaceful demeanor?

Renita:  I am not sure if those who live with me on a day to day basis would call me peaceful. This morning I was sitting at the foot of my dad’s hospital bed watching him sleep and I thought of how practical, patient and even tempered he is. I have never seen him lose his temper. He always has practical advice to give, and has handled many difficult situations with wisdom and grace. That life-long example is where I hope I get my spirit. I hope I can be half as effective as my parents have been in the Kingdom.

What a blessing to have that kind of example from your father!  He will continue to be in my prayers.  Is there something you’d like to share about yourself that others might be surprised to know?

Renita:  I am a pretty meat and potatoes type of girl. There is not much surprising about me. Jeff thinks it really cool that I was able to interview a couple of Presidents of the United States of America during my time as a news reporter, and it was neat…but I don’t know…I would rather someone say it surprised them to know I am 53 years old.

Jeff is right!  What’s your favorite thing about being a preacher’s wife?

Renita:  I think it would have to be the opportunities I am given at work. Most people call themselves “Christians” but because they call me “the preacher’s wife” many times co-workers come to me with Bible questions or with an issue in their life where they need help. I don’t believe I would be able to have as many bible studies over lunch without that “title”. Right now two ladies that I work with are attending my ladies’ class at the Chattanooga School of Preaching and Biblical Studies. It opened the door to an in-depth study on the role of women leaders in the church. Another co-worker approached me when her daughter came home talking about “a young earth”. She had never heard the term before and we studied for several weeks. I also cannot remember the number of times two of us have retreated to the restroom for a session of prayer over a specific issue they were facing. I pray that the small seeds planted each day bear fruit in the years to come.

Renita, I think that’s one of the best answers I’ve ever been given.  I love your soul-winning attitude about the “title,” when so many preachers’ wives seem to resent it.  Keep up the great work! What’s your go-to company meal?

Renita:  Well…I am more likely to take you a mile down the road to a local “meat and three” we frequent than offer to cook for you . It is a quiet place most days where you can easily talk, and then we go back to the house for dessert. If I really need to fix something at home it will be easy like a large pan of lasagna and salad. One of our members once told me it was a sin that I had such a nice kitchen since I didn’t know how to use it.

Ha!  Sounds like fun!  Would you mind sharing one of your favorite books with us?

Renita:  I love to read…there is nothing I enjoy more than curling up with a good book. I love workbooks and commentaries and lectureship books. But I am guessing I have read Daughters of Eve by Lottie Beth Hobbs a dozen times and Heart Bouquet by Louise Barnett Cox almost that many.

Thank you, Renita.  Time spent with you is always refreshing.  May God bless you abundantly as you continue to shine for Him!

Renita with husband Jeff
Renita with husband Jeff

 

A Much-Loved Preacher’s Wife–interview with Tish Housley (& recipes!)

Tish Housley made an impact on me.  In March, Neal and I walked into her home in Montgomery, AL, for a meal.  Her cozy kitchen and warm smile instantly relaxed us.  In one weekend, she had us over for a home cooked meal three different times!  She is an excellent cook and sweet conversationalist.  What struck me the most about Tish, however, is how much her church family loves her.  I watched her interact with members of all ages.  Their faces would light up as she hugged and talked with them.  The members talked about her behind her back but it was all complimentary.  Even though I didn’t ask, they told me about her sincerity and loving heart.  Here’s the amazing part–Tish isn’t adored because she is new.  Steve and Tish have been serving with the Eastern Meadows congregation for almost 30 years!  If we lived closer, I know I’d want to spend as much time as possible learning from this delightful Christian woman.  Tish graciously agreed to let me interview her.  I love her answers and I know you will, too.

Tish, tell us a little about yourself, please.

I grew up on a dairy farm near West Plains, Missouri.  Yes, I know how to milk a cow, with an electric milker.  I attended Freed-Hardeman University, and there I met my best friend, Steve Housley.  We married in May of 1980 after we both graduated.  In the summer of 1980, Steve and I worked with the Central congregation in Spartanburg, South Carolina.  Steve had the pleasure of working alongside James Meadows as the assistant minister.  In the fall, Steve continued his education at Harding Graduate School, and I taught fifth grade at Harding Academy.  After only a year, we moved to Lucedale, Mississippi, where we worked with the Rocky Creek congregation.  During the six years we were blessed to be at Rocky Creek, Beth and Brooks were born.  In November of 1987, we moved to Montgomery, Alabama, and continue to be at this wonderful church.  During this time, I stayed at home with my children for ten years.  Beth and Brooks attended Alabama Christian Academy, and I would help out at school when needed.  Gradually, I found myself at school more and more frequently substituting, and before I knew it, I was teaching full time.  I taught there for nineteen and a half years.  I loved being there with my children.  My father’s and father-in-law’s health began to decline so I retired to help out with them.

I don’t think I’ve ever seen a preacher’s wife more loved by her church family.  How have you been able to get into the hearts of your Christian brothers and sisters?  

“First of all, I try to simply be a part of the congregation.  I really think they are in my heart more than I am in theirs.  I love them; they are my family!  I don’t want it to be an “us and them.”  I want it to be a “we.”  Try not to hold back.  Jump in and help no matter what the job is.  Find ways to encourage but not take over.”

What advice can you offer other preachers’ wives who are trying to build good relationships?

“Be careful to be friendly to everyone.  We all have our close friends, and we need that.  Get with those special friends at another time other than before and after the worship service.  Try to get around to everyone especially those that seem to be isolated.  

Don’t be afraid to roll up your sleeves and work.  I will never forget meeting Sister Howard, V.E. Howard’s wife.  I was twenty years old on a campaign in Fort Lauderdale, Florida.  We girls always did the dishes after lunch before going out door knocking.  Sister Howard had eaten lunch with us that day.  After eating, she didn’t just sit there.  She stood up, walked over to the sink, and began washing dishes.  That impressed me.  I thought she was royalty, but yet, she did not think of herself that way.  She was one of us.  I loved that!”

What do you love most about being a preacher’s wife?

“I love being able to serve, but anyone can and should do that.  I do think we have a unique way to serve in that we are closer to the preacher than anyone.  I feel like I am his number one assistant.  I want to make home special, a little vacation place for him.  We might only have an hour in the evening to spend together, but I want that hour to be like a mini vacation.  

I don’t want him to nervous about being able to invite people into our home.  I try to keep it presentable.

I don’t think of being a preacher as his job; we are a team!  I love that!”

You are very hospitable, Tish!  What is your favorite company meal?

“The easiest meal is a roast.  I can put it in the oven and go on with other things.  I will put onions and carrots in the roast.  Every once in a while I’ll put potatoes but Steve really likes yellow rice.  I cook different vegetables to go along with the roast, but most of the time, green beans will be a side dish and also a salad.  I love the Chinese chicken salad.  For dessert, I will make an apple pie or red velvet cake.”

Would you mind sharing one of your favorite recipes with us?

“I will have to share two.  (You can pick the one you want to keep.)”

I’m going to share both (see below).   I’ve had your Tomato Pie and it’s delicious!  Thank you, Tish, for your time and for your wise insight.  I thank God for you!

TOMATO PIE

  • 4 tomatoes, peeled and sliced
  • 10 fresh basil leaves, chopped (I use dried about 1 ½ teaspoon)
  • 1/2 cup chopped green onion (You can also use a regular onion)
  • 1 (9-inch) prebaked deep dish pie shell
  • 1 cup grated mozzarella
  • 1 cup grated cheddar
  • 1 cup mayonnaise
  • Salt and pepper

Directions

1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F.

2. Place the tomatoes in a colander in the sink in 1 layer. Sprinkle with salt and allow to drain for 10 minutes.

3. Layer the tomato slices, basil, and onion in pie shell. Season with salt and pepper. Combine the grated cheeses and mayonnaise together. Spread mixture on top of the tomatoes and bake for 30 minutes or until lightly browned.

4. To serve, cut into slices and serve warm.

PORTABLE CHINESE CHICKEN SALAD

  • 4 skinless, boneless chicken breast halves
  • 1 (16 ounce) package coleslaw mix
  • 2 (3 ounce) packages chicken flavored ramen noodles, crushed, seasoning packet reserved
  • 1/2 cup blanched slivered almonds (I brown them in a skillet with the ramen noodles)
  • 1/2 cup corn oil
  • 1/2 cup rice garlic vinegar or regular vinegar
  • 1 packet artificial sweetener or regular sugar

Directions

1. Sauté chicken in a large skillet until well browned or boil in water and drain (cool chicken). Place coleslaw in a large bowl, add chicken and set aside (or refrigerate if not serving soon).

2. Break up ramen noodles into a small bowl; add almonds.  I brown in a skillet with oil.

3. In a small bowl combine the corn oil, vinegar, ramen seasoning packets and artificial sweetener or sugar. Mix well and set aside until ready to serve.

4. When you arrive at your destination, add noodle mixture and dressing mixture to large chicken/coleslaw bowl and stir together.

Steve & Tish Housley

Meet Alicia Bookout! (a Christian woman interview & recipe)

She’s young, beautiful, warm, and fun-loving.  Pour a cup of coffee and enjoy this interview with Alicia Bookout, a sweet preacher’s wife and mother.

Kathy:  Hi, Alicia!  Please tell us a little about yourself.

Alicia:  “Garrett and I met for the first time on January 28, 2006 at a get-together for the freshman at the Bear Valley Institute of Denver. He had just moved from TX. He asked some people about me, but was told I was younger than I actually was, so didn’t pursue.  He later learned my real age (whew!) and a year later we fell hard for each other. We just celebrated 6 years of happy marriage!

Right after marriage we were given the excellent opportunity for Garrett to work as the Intern for Bear Valley church of Christ for two years. Our “mentors” (as we like to call them) were some people named Neal and Kathy Pollard. 😉 Since 2010 we have lived in Clovis, NM where Garrett is the pulpit Minister for the 16th and Pile church of Christ.

I’m blessed to get to stay at home with our two wonderful, fun and energetic kids, Emma (4 yrs) and Wesley (2 yrs).” 

Kathy:  You write for KatharosNOW.  What’s that all about?

Alicia:  “It is a blog aimed to encourage teenage girls to remain pure and clean (katharos) in this world. My sister-in-law started it a couple of years ago. Several different Christian women and young ladies from around the country write for it. I think it is a great resource for young ladies today.”

Kathy:  Sounds wonderful!  I know many will enjoy checking out http://katharosnow.com/

You fill many roles. Many young mothers struggle with feeling like they don’t have enough time to accomplish everything. What advice would you give them?

Alicia:  “Pray and drink lots of coffee! I still struggle with this problem myself. One thing that has really helped is making daily lists. Especially on days that I feel overwhelmed. I will list at the top things that I absolutely have to get done that day and then add extras. If I get to the extra part of the list, that is great, if not, I really try to not lie in bed and stress about it. So many young moms (myself included) can run themselves ragged trying to make everything perfect. Some days it will just not be that way and that is ok. As long as you are taking care of your biggest jobs God has given you (hubby and children) then you are doing good. I would suggest though to NEVER allow your alone/quiet time with God to go on the “extras” part of your list. That has to be a priority daily or it will lead to more stressed and unaccomplished feelings (learned from experience).” 

Kathy:  What’s your favorite company meal?

Alicia:  “Crockpot Shredded Italian Beef Sandwiches! It’s easy, can feed an army and something I grew up with so it always reminds me of home. I usually prepare Velveeta cheese dip to go along side so that you can smother your sandwich with it if you want. Needless to say, this is not a dish for those counting calories.”

Italian Beef Sandwiches

  • 1 sirloin tip roast, rump roast, etc. (pork works good, too…cheaper!)
  • 1 pkg. dry Italian Dressing (about 1 per 1 1/2 lbs of meat)
  • one can of Beef Broth

Put in Crockpot on low for 8ish hours (depends on how many pounds of meat you use). Shred and put on rolls!

Kathy:  Would you mind sharing another favorite recipe with us? 

Alicia:  “I have too many favorite recipes so this question was one of the hardest to answer. Chocolate Éclair Cake kept coming to mind though. So easy to make and I could eat the entire pan if I’m not careful.

  • 1 Box Graham Crackers
  • 1 big box Instant Vanilla Pudding
  • 1 8 oz. container Cool Whip
  • 1 tub Chocolate Frosting 

Make Pudding according to directions and mix the cool whip into the pudding. In a 9×13 dish layer graham crackers and top with pudding mixture. Make 3 layers ending with graham crackers as the top. Heat up your chocolate frosting and pour over the top of the graham crackers. Refrigerate for a couple hours and then gobble up!”

 Kathy:  As a busy mom of young children, how do you keep the spark alive in your marriage? 

Alicia:  “As newlyweds we were told a number of times “enjoy the romance before kids come along!”. Garrett and I were determined to not let our romance fizzle out once I got pregnant with our first. It definitely takes more work, but I truly believe that having kids has made us more in love and a stronger couple. 

 I would suggest DO NOT give up on your quiet time and dates! We love our kids to pieces but need our time together. We do this by making sure our kids have a strict bed time (8 pm in this house) so that we have nightly alone time. If you don’t have a babysitter for a date out on the town, one of our favorite things is in-home dates! After kids are in bed cook together, watch a movie, play a game, just get creative! Home dates can be cheaper, cozier, more fun and romantic than a night out.

Also, make sure even though most of your time is spent caring for the children, that you still let your hubby know that you think of him daily. Take time in your hectic day to flirt with him. Text messages, Facebook and phone calls are great ways for that. Get dressed up just for him occasionally. My sweet husband says my “mom outfits” (sweats, t-shirt with kid food and marker and pony tail) are cute, but I also know he doesn’t complain if I fix myself up.  Little things that show him you care are always a good thing.”

Kathy:  What is something about you that people might be surprised to know? 

Alicia:  “I was born in Okinawa, Japan and have lived in 9 different states. I was an “air force brat” growing up and loved the experience of seeing all sorts of new places and people!”

Kathy:  When I think of you, I think of someone who’s joyful, warm, and real. I’m sure you deal with your fair share of stress and problems, so what’s your secret to maintaining these admirable traits?

Alicia:  “I appreciate you saying that. I can definitely say I have not dealt with stress like I should at times and have to work on it a lot. My new favorite thing to do when I am feeling especially stressed, upset or anxious is to do a word search in scriptures. I use my bible program online (concordance works great too) and look up words like “comfort”, “worry” and “joy”. I will read most of the scriptures that pop up. Some of my favorites I end up reading a couple times throughout the day and even writing them out on sticky notes and putting them on my walls as reminders. It is amazing how much better I feel and how my attitude changes after I do this.” 

Kathy:  Thank you, Alicia!  It’s been a real pleasure ‘chatting’ with you, and I appreciate your beautiful insight and wisdom.  May God bless you and your sweet family as you shine for Him!

Alicia & her husband Garrett
 

21 Reasons Why I Love Being a Preacher’s Wife

Yesterday Neal and I celebrated our 21st wedding anniversary.  How do I feel after 21 years of being married to a preacher?  Very, very blessed.  And here’s why, in no particular order:

1.  Our coworkers- We work with the best people.  They’re all Christians.

2.  Uplifting events- Gospel meetings, seminars, lectureships, and ladies’ days provide lots of opportunities to get revived, refreshed, & renewed.

3.  Encouragement- Through the years we’ve been given some thoughtful notes.  Sure, we’ve also received some criticism, but who hasn’t?

4.  Prayers on our behalf- Many Sundays involve someone praying, “Please bless our preacher and his family.”

5.  Opportunities for growth- There have been more than a few moments when I’ve been nudged out of my comfort zone.

6.  Hospitality- We’ve enjoyed open hearths and open hearts in all kinds of homes.

7.  Great meals (because of #6)-  🙂

8.  Life events- We share in the lives of others when they get married, give birth, and bury their loved ones.

9.  Compassion- Some of my stumbles and goofs have been pretty public.  I’m grateful for the patience and love we’ve been given.

10.  My sons’ role model- Their dad is a preacher who always speaks highly of the Lord and His church.

11.  Mission trips- We don’t have to take time off from work; it IS our work.

12.  Fellowship- I can never get enough.

13.  Kindred spirits- I love the instant bond that forms when meeting other preachers’ wives.

14.  Support- The church family is so good about being there through thick and thin.

15.  Elders- God bless them for their labor of love.  They have the best hearts and make the best bosses.

16.  Baptisms- We rarely have to miss them.  Day or night, we can stop what we’re doing and head to the building.

17.  Preachers- We get to be around them, and get to know them.  We sure like them!

18.  Bible studies- I’ll never get tired of seeing the Truth work on the hearts of genuine searchers.  Joy and tears.

19.  People- We’re with all kinds…working, struggling, sharing, caring, learning, growing.  It’s what our job is all about.

20.  Friends for eternity- There are so many that we’ve met and loved through the years, and we never have to say goodbye.

21.  My husband- He studies, prays, leads, and puts God first.  What’s more attractive than a man with an open Bible?

Prayer for Today:  Thank you, Lord, for my preacher, for Your church, and for the blessings you shower upon all of Your children.  

Gospel meeting in West Palm Beach