I’m Ruining Our Children

A couple of weeks ago I sent my husband a pathetic email.  It went something like this:

Dear Neal,

[A long paragraph here about how I think I’m ruining our children.]



You see, that day I was feeling particularly incompetent.  Our youngest son was struggling with one of the questions in his 10th grade grammar book.   I ended up having to tell him, “I’m sorry, I can’t figure it out, either.  Just skip this one.”  You should’ve seen the look on his face.  That wasn’t the first time that has happened, but usually it’s math that has me stumped.  I felt unqualified and unequal to the task.  I wanted to quit.  Thankfully, my husband knew exactly what to say to encourage me and that made all the difference.  He reminded me of the big picture, our end goals, and the fact that I can rely on God for help even when trying to figure out 10th grade grammar.  I’m grateful that I don’t have to be brilliant to homeschool my sons!

Have you ever found yourself unequal to a task?  Do you say no to opportunities because you feel like you’re the wrong person for the job or you’re not good enough?  Perhaps someone asked you for parenting advice and all you can think about is how you’re still trying to figure it out yourself.  Perhaps someone asked you to teach a Bible class, but you’re all too aware of your spiritual weaknesses.  Or perhaps someone asked you to speak about your Christian walk and you feel like a hypocrite because you know you’ve messed up, hurt others, sinned big time.      The truth is perhaps you’re not qualified, but God is.  We can help others because He helps us. We make mistakes and don’t always know what to say or do, but we can rely on God’s wisdom and strength to tackle a task anyway (1 Chron. 16:11; Psa. 31:24; 2 Cor. 12:9,10).   I’m glad I don’t have to be perfectly sinless to shine the Light!

By the way, here was Neal’s reply to my whiney email:

Dear Kathy,

[A long paragraph here filled with sweet encouragement.]



Prayer for Today:  May I never let doubt or discouragement keep me from serving You, Lord.



**This post can also be found at http://proverbs14verse1.blogspot.com/2014/02/wise-woman-linkup_11.html

Author: Kathy Pollard

I'm a Christian woman, happily married to my best friend, Neal. We have 3 grown sons, Gary, Dale, and Carl, and 3 sweet daughters-in-law, Chelsea, Janelle, and Emily. Neal preaches for the Lehman Ave. church of Christ in Bowling Green, KY. We love the Lord and His church!

7 thoughts on “I’m Ruining Our Children”

  1. Great thoughts Kathy. Julie and I have often felt unprepared and incapable for the crazy parenting world on so many levels. It’s good to know that we aren’t alone, even with seasoned veterans like yourselves. Thanks for the encouragement.

    P.S. Julie and I both think that you and Neal are incredible parents. You guys have given us so many great examples of good parenting. All of your boys are awesome. That doesn’t happen by accident.


  2. Thanks for the beautiful encouragement. Believe it or not, while my wife is tasked with most of our childrens’ schooling, I am usually the one who has this concern. She is so confident. I am always worried that I’m “ruining them.” As I read your post, I am reminded that just as I am sure you are not ruining your good family, I am probably too worried about it to actually be doing it, too. God bless you all. You are a light for the Lord.


    1. Thank you for reading and commenting! I’m sure you are also a source of encouragement for your wife (as she is for you) as you bring up your children in the Lord. Thank you for your thoughtful remarks!


  3. You guys are so precious to us! What a couple of inspiring, encouraging servants. Thank you for this one! (And all of them!) … don’t check the grammar! 😉


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