When I was a newlywed twenty years ago, a friend gave me her copy of The Challenge of Being a Wife by Ruth E. Hazelwood. It had already been around for awhile by that time, having been published in 1977. Some might consider a thirty five year old book on marriage to be outdated. If marriages that emphasize commitment, selflessness, and putting God first are old-fashioned, then I want an old-fashioned marriage.
Every now and then I pull this book off the shelf and browse through it. It never fails to renew my desire to be desirable wife. It encourages me and makes me smile. I imagine throughout the next twenty years, I’ll keep going back for more reminders and practical tid-bits on how to have a happy marriage.
Here are some of the gems found in The Challenge of Being a Wife:
“Be glad that you are a woman with womanly things to do. Take your place with confidence and pride. Be a first class woman and not a second rate man!”
“Why not accept the fact that no husband is faultless? Some men may excel others, but all fall short at times. Be thankful they do, else how could they live with us and all our imperfections? How would you like YOU for a wife?”
“Love should make others feel good about themselves.”
“Try to go one whole day without criticizing or complaining about anything or anybody.”
“Love your husband for what he is, love him for what he is not, then love him again for what he may become.”
“Your husband sees himself through your eyes. What does he see?”
“While the problems that arise in your marriage may not be of your doing, your reactions to them can make or break the marriage. It takes two to make a bad marriage.”
“There can be no genuine happiness without God.”
“The three traits a man looks for in a wife are femininity, understanding, and a happy disposition.”
“A common mistake is expecting your husband to know how you feel or to see that you need help. He is not a mind reader just because he loves you. Learn to ask when you need his help. Don’t be a martyr.”
“It is more blessed to give than receive, but by giving you will also be receiving.”
Prayer for Today: Thank you for the reminder, Lord, that good marriages don’t just happen. Help me to fill each day with gratitude and giving.
11 thoughts on “A Book on My Nightstand”
Thank you for this post! Love you!
Love you, too, April!
Kathy you always encourage me with your words on your blog and facebook status’. I appreciate it more than you may ever know.
Thanks for YOUR encouraging comment, Lori!
I married the year that book was published. It’s always good to be reminded of these things! Thank you!
Congratulations on 35 years of marriage!
You speak how my heart feels. I love being connected to other couples who’s relationship was founded and molded by God, and staying true and strong in his word with love. Everything you stated is right on and perfect. Your blogs always are a constant reminder and makes me smile. Thanks Kathy! Bless you guys!
Thank you, Jennifer! And thank you for your thoughts about being connected to other strong couples. Beautiful!
Thank you for this post… I am going to look for this book on Amazon right now! All of us need a good reminder to nurture our marriages. So many “Christians” around us are giving up on their marriages these days, but posts like this help us keep on keepin’ on. Hope to see you at PTP next month!
Kathy, I love reading your blog. In March 2013 my husband Paul passed away. We would have been married 15 years in November. I have noticed how negative women speak of their husbands. That was one thing that Paul and I agreed upon when we got married. We would never speak ill of each other to outsiders. As it turned out we did not speak bad to each other. Keep up your wonderful ministry.
Thank you, Janie! Thank you for sharing that insightful tip. Great advice! I’m so very sorry to hear about the loss of your husband.